Three Ways to Slay Your Dragons

Have you ever noticed how successful people seem to bounce back from self-doubt? They lead with confidence, calmness and have an energy that propels them forward.

While many of us struggle with feelings of inadequacy and the nagging sense that we’re just pretending to know what we’re doing, successful individuals embrace habits that help them rise above those doubts and move toward their goals.

Research shows that about 70 percent of people experience imposter syndrome at some point in their lives[i].

This phenomenon involves downplaying one’s accomplishments and constantly fearing exposure as a fraud. It frequently affects high achievers. In fact, some of the most accomplished leaders – like Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey and Stephen “Steph” Curry – have faced these feelings themselves.

Allowing self-doubt to take control can limit both personal and professional growth. It makes us reluctant to make decisions, seize opportunities and take risks. However, there are practical steps we can take to slay our dragons:

Flex your strengths

Imposter syndrome often comes from comparing ourselves to others. But when we focus on our unique strengths, we build confidence and authenticity, which are antidotes to imposter syndrome.

A young doctor I worked with had imposter syndrome because she didn’t feel “as smart” as her colleagues. Together, we discovered that her exceptional interpersonal skills were a key strength. These set her apart.

Learning that intelligence comes in many forms, and seeing her unique value, helped liberate her from imposter syndrome.

Choose your thoughts wisely

Nothing will limit you faster than your own mind – and nothing will accelerate you faster either. This powerful idea reminds us that our mindset can either become the greatest obstacle or the strongest force in driving our success.

Just like the body needs nutritious food for energy, our minds thrive on positive thoughts.

When you find yourself needing a confidence boost, try talking to yourself with the same kindness and encouragement you’d offer a friend.

Being kind to others is mostly about your actions, but being kind to yourself is mostly about your thoughts.

Celebrate your accomplishments

Celebrating achievements is crucial for overcoming imposter syndrome because it helps shift the focus from self-doubt to self-recognition.

Celebrations needn’t wait until everything is “done” – if you’re ambitious, you might never be done.

By taking time to acknowledge both small and large accomplishments, we strengthen our sense of worth and fuel motivation.

Make celebrating a habit and find a way that feels meaningful for you – measure competence not confidence.

Self-doubt is part of being human.

Overcoming imposter syndrome doesn’t mean you’ll never have doubts; it means you’ll have strategies to manage them, so they won’t hold you back from reaching your true potential.

As Nelson Mandela said, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.”

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[1] If I’m So Successful, Why Do I Feel Like a Fake? Eds Joan C Harvey and Cynthia Katz, New York, 1985